Books · creativity

The “So what?” test

Continuing to pull some helpful snippets out of Show Your Work, let’s look at the “So What?” test.

I had struggled for a while on this blog with the “to post or not to post” question. I was honing in on a vague “useful or interesting” test when I read Show Your Work, which attacked this idea with a “So What?” test.

I had a professor in college who returned our graded essays, walked up to the chalkboard, and wrote in huge letters: β€œSO WHAT?” She threw the piece of chalk down and said, β€œAsk yourself that every time you turn in a piece of writing.

Now any of my own posts must pass the “Sow what?” test before I will publish it. Clearly I found this “So what?” test useful because I use it here constantly.

As always, the book explains the idea most vividly with an illustration.

I will say that this rule seems at odds (or is it just tension?) with other ideas in the book, namely share something small every day.

I mean, do you really have something interesting and useful to share every day? If you’re a professional writer, maybe. But if you’re just a guy with a blog and limited time, maybe not. πŸ˜†

So I’m letting the “So what?” rule overrule any others for now.

Quotes

“Forgiveness is just another name for freedom.”

Here’s a really wise and simple quote from Byron Katie. While resentment is like drinking your own poison, Byron says:

Forgiveness is just another name for freedom.

Let go of any negative emotions you feel from being hurt, and free yourself from that negativity. The Daily Inspiration adds:

Forgiveness actually becomes a form of self-care, allowing us to move forward unencumbered, to enjoy the freedom and lightness that comes from letting go.

So forgive, move on, and enjoy your life. πŸ™

Books · Quotes

“Do what you want to do, because it’s what you want to do.”

One of my favorite books, I Suck at Girls, written by the Sh*t My Dad Says guy, is full of said dad’s advice, which happens to be both obscenity-laced and wise.

In this snippet, the son is deciding how to respond to his ex’s invitation to lunch while still hurting from a breakup. So he asks his dad’s opinion.

β€œYou’re not fucking perfect,” says the dad.

The son is confused by this response and asks for some clarification.

Noting that “You do dumb shit. She does dumb shit. Everyone does dumb shit,” πŸ˜† the dad gives some great advice.

Don’t do something, or not do something, to punish someone because you think they did something dumb. Do what you want to do, because it’s what you want to do.

The son follows the advice, which is brilliantly both forgiving and self-empowering, and goes for lunch.

Spoiler: he does not regret it.

Note: “what you want to do” should still fit in with ethical norms, legal constraints, and personal values. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈπŸ˜† Don’t do your own dumb shit.